Monday, August 19, 2019

How to talk to God about your problems


How to talk to God about your problems

What does the Bible say about talking to God about your problems?
First, we can know that God wants to hear from us about our problems because the apostle Peter tells us we should be humbly “casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7).
There are many examples of people in the Bible sharing their problems with God and seeking His help. The book of Psalms records many of these heartfelt prayers.
Here are a few examples that show how to talk to God about your problems in different ways.
 *Problems from other people:* “LORD, how they have increased who trouble me! Many are they who rise up against me. Many are they who say of me, ‘There is no help for him in God.’ Selah. But You, O LORD, are a shield for me, my glory and the One who lifts up my head. I cried to the LORD with my voice, and He heard me from His holy hill” (Psalm 3:1-4).
 *Problems with sickness and health trials*:“Have mercy on me, O LORD, for I am weak; O LORD, heal me, for my bones are troubled. My soul also is greatly troubled; but You, O LORD—how long?” (Psalm 6:2-23)
 *Problems with “the shadow of death”:*“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4)
 Problems with sin and guilt: “Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Your lovingkindness; according to the multitude of Your tender mercies, blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin” (Psalm 51:1-2)
God does hear and answer prayers still today. And He gives us instructions about how to pray so that we can receive His answer.
Our Christian duty
We know that Jesus prayed regularly, and He expects us to pray daily as well.
During His Sermon on the Mount, He said, “And when you pray, you shall not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the corners of the streets, that they may be seen by men. Assuredly, I say to you, they have their reward.
*But you, when you pray, go into your room, and when you have shut your door, pray to your Father who is in the secret place; and your Father who sees in secret will reward you openly*.
“And when you pray, do not use vain repetitions as the heathen do. For they think that they will be heard for their many words. Therefore do not be like them. For your Father knows the things you have need of before you ask Him” (Matthew 6:5-8).

Do You Know The Difference Between Unfurling National Flag On Independence Day And Republic Day?


Do You Know The Difference Between Unfurling National Flag On Independence Day And Republic Day?

There is a difference between *hoisting the flag* on Independence day and *unfurling it on Republic Day*.
We bring to you three differences between flag hoisting on Independence and Republic Day

1. On Independence day, the national flag is tied and sits at the bottom. The Prime Minister then raises it up and unfurls it. The motive is to honour the historical event of August 15,1947. Whereas on Republic Day, the flag remains closed and tied up on the top, which is then unfurled without pulling it up. This is to mark that the country is already independent.
2. The second difference is the Prime Minister hoists the flag on Independence day as the head of the government. On Republic Day, i.e., on January 26, the President attends the event and as the first citizen of the country, the president unfurls the flag.
3. The third difference is that of the location. The Independence day is celebrated and the flag hoisting takes place at the Red Fort in New Delhi. The Prime Minister addresses the nation from the ramparts of the Red Fort. While the Republic Day is celebrated at the Rajpath in New Delhi. The President unfurls the flag at the Rajpath. Artillery display, three forces march, tableau of the states are taken out for the Republic Day Parade at the Rajpath which becomes the centre of attraction for the day.

Which is correct?
Independence Day celebration or Independence Day observation
*Independence Day is to observe*
Independence Day is observed throughout India with flag-hoisting ceremonies, parades and cultural events.
*Republic Day is to celebrate:*
Many people throughout India celebrate the Nation's Republic Day, which is a gazetted holiday on January 26 each year.
It is a day to remember when India's constitution came into force on January 26, 1950, completing the country's transition toward becoming an independent republic.

THINK ABOUT IT ...


THINK ABOUT IT ...
1. Be like the bee, which lands on fragrant flowers and fresh
branches.
2. You do not have time to seek out people's defects and
mistakes.
3. If Allah is with you, then whom do you have to fear? If Allah
is against you, then what hope do you have?
4. The fire of envy consumes the body, and excessive jealousy
is like a raging fire.
5. If you do not prepare today, then you will not be able to do
anything tomorrow.
6. Withdraw peacefully from places where idle arguments are
going on.
7. Let your morals and attitudes be even more beautiful than a garden.
8. Do acts of kindness and you will be the happiest of people.
9. Leave people to their Creator, leave the envier to death, and
forget about your enemy.
I 0. The pleasure of haram actions is followed by regret, loss and punishment.

Recite this Dua and slaughter the animal with the words


Recitet Dua and slaughter the animal with the words:


Bismillahi Wallahu Akbar.”
Inni waz jahtu wajahi ya lillazi fa ta rassamawati wal arz hanifauv wa ma ana minal mushriqi na in na salaati wa nusuki wa mahya ya wa mamaati lillahi rabbil aalmin. La shariq lahu wa bizali ka uriratu wa ana minal muslimin. Allahumma ma la  ka wa min ka bismillahi Allahu Akbar.
If Qurbani is on your behalf, then After Qurbani Read the below Dua: 
Allahumma ta Kabbal minni kama ta kabbal ta min khalili ka Ibrahim Alayhi Wa Salatu salam wa Habeebi ka Muhammadin Saallalahu Ta’ala Alayhi Wasallam
If slaughtering on the behalf of somebody else, instead of the words: “Minni” one should say : “Min” and take the name of the person and his father on whose behalf the Qurbani is being offered (Taqabbal Min ______ bin _________)
Qurbani Method
Place the animal of Qurbani on the left side in such a way that its’ face is towards the Qibla and put the left leg on its side. And say the above duaa before slaughter.
Masala 1: With regard to Qurbani, sahibul Nisaab is the person who
A) Owns 52 ½ taula of silver (612.4 grams, 19.75 ounces) or 7 ½ taula of gold
(87.48 grams, 2.82 ounces)
B) Or owns the equivalent of the price of these in business possessions or non-business possessions
C) Or owns equivalent of naqd [cash] or money
And the owned possessions are more than the hajate asalia [explained in Masala 2].
Masala 2: Hajate asalia, that is, the things which are necessary to for a livelihood. Possessions of these things does not make Qurbani nor Zakat wajib. Like the house to live in, the clothes to wear in the summer and winter, possessions the household, animals or cars for transportation, equipment for work, and books for the people of knowledge.
Masala 3: By books it is meant the Quran, Hadith, Usool of Hadith, Usool of Fiqh, Ilm Kalaam, Akhlaq, and other religious books. Just like this, books of medicine are hajate asalia for a doctor.
Masala 4: Besides this, more than copy of books such as religious books, Nahw, Sarf, Nujoom, Stories, Deewan, and other books are not hajate asalia. If their value reaches nisab then Qurbani is wajib.
Masala 5: Quran Majeed is not hajate asalia for a Hafiz.
Masala 6: Qurbani is not wajib on a musafir (traveler) even if he is wealthy. Although, if he wishes to do Qurbani for Nafl reward then he may do so.
Masala 7: If a woman has jewelry given to her by her father or any other possessions which she owns which reaches the value of nisab then Qurbani is wajib on her also. This is the order of every year.
Masala 8: If a Malikun Nisaab (owner of Nisaab) does Qurbani in his name at one time and if he is a malikun nisaab the next year then it is wajib on him to do Qurbani [for that year]. This is the order of every year. (Tirmizi)
Masala 9: If malikun nisaab person does Qurbani in someone else’s name besides himself and not in his name then he is a grave sinner. So, if one wants to Qurbani for someone else then he should make arrangements for another Qurbani for the other person.
*Animals of Qurbani*
Masala 10: Male or female camel, cow, buffalo, goat, sheep, and ram are all permissible.
Masala 11: A camel must of 5 years, a cow and buffalo of 2 years, a goat, sheep, and ram of 1 year. If the animal is younger than this then qurbani is not permissible, if older than this then it is permissible, in fact it is better. However, if the six-month old offspring of sheep or ram is so big that from looking from afar the sheep or ram looks like a year old then it is permissible.
Masala 12: It is wajib for a sahibun nisaab to slaughter one goat or to slaughter a seventh of camel, cow, and buffalo, it is not permissible to slaughter less than one seventh of the animal.
Masala 13: To slaughter more than a seventh is permissible such as five or six persons slaughtering a cow or buffalo, rather, one person may do qurbani of a whole cow.
*The Days of Qurbani*
Masala 14: The time for Qurbani is from the dusk of dawn on the 10th of Zul Hijjah to the sunset of the 12th of Zul Hijjah, that is, two days and three nights.
Masala 15: The best date for Qurbani is the 10th of Zul Hijjah, then 11th, and then the 12th.
Masala 16: It is not Jaiz (permissible) to do Qurbani before the Salah of Eid in the city.
*The Ahkam of Meat and Skin*
Masala 17: One may eat the meat of Qurbani himself or give it to a poor or wealthy person or feed them, rather, it is mustahab (better) that the one who has done the Qurbani also eats some from the Qurabni.
Masala 18: It is best for the one who will do Qurbani that to not eat or drink anything from dusk of dawn on the 10th of Zul Hijjah and when the Qurbani is done, he eat from it’s meat.
Masala 19: It is better to divide the meat into three parts in such a way that one for the Fuqaraa and Masakeen (the poor and needy), one part for the friends and relatives, and one part for his own household. If the household persons are many then he my feed all of the meat to his household.
Masala 20: If one did Qurbani on behalf of a deceased person then he may eat the meat himself and feed it to his  and relatives, that is, if  not made waseeah (willed) this Qurbani otherwise give all in Sadqa.
Masala 21: If the Qurbani is done because of a mannat (vow) then one can not eat the meat himself nor can he feed to the wealthy rather it is wajib to give it in Sadqa, the vower my be a wealthy or poor person.
Masala 22: It is not permissible to give the meat to a Kafir.
Masala 23: It is not permissible to give the leather or meat or any part of it to the butcher or to the one who did the slaughter (for you) as a payment.
*Leather of Qurbani*
Masala 24: It is not permissible to sell the leather/skin of the Qurbani and bring the money into personal use. However, one may use the leather/skin for personal use.
Masala 25: Many people give the skin to religious Madarsas which is a afdal(best) and the means of getting great reward. At times, it is difficult to send the skin to the madarsas so people sell the skin and send the money to the madarsas which is also no problem.
*The Way of Zabh (Slaughter)*
Masala 26: Four arteries are to be cut whilst slaughtering. If three of the four arteries are cut or most of the each four arteries are cut then the slaughtered is Halal.
Masala 27: If one purposely did not say Arabic text (that is, did not take the name of Allah) then the animal is haraam. If he forgot then the animal is halal
Masala 28: If one handed over the animal to the butcher before completely slaughtering the animal then the butcher must also say Arabic text before proceeding with slaughtering the animal.
Masala 29: To slaughter in such a way that the knife reaches the haraam magz (spinal cord ) or that the head comes off is makrooh (undesirable) but the animal can be eaten, that is, the undesirability is with this action not with the zabeeha (slaughter).
Masala 30: The same order applies for a woman as does for a man, that is, the slaughter of a woman (performed by a woman)  is permissible.
Masala 31: The slaughter of a Mushrik or Murtad (performed by them) is dead and haraam.

SACRIFICE FOR THE CAUSE OF ALLAH


SACRIFICE FOR THE CAUSE OF ALLAH

It is not the blood and meat that reaches Allah. It's your piety and changes of your heart.
Eid al-Adha meaning:
Festival of the Sacrifice’. It is celebrated to mark the willingness of Prophet Ibrahim (May Allah bless him) to follow Allah’s command.
History:
According to Islam Allah (God) commanded Ibrahim -May Allah bless him  to sacrifice his son. Ibrahim - May Allah bless him proceeded and took his son to Mount Moriah to sacrifice him.
As Ibrahim-May Allah bless him was about to sacrifice his son an Angel appeared and stopped him. Angel then replaced Ibrahim’s son with a Lamb.
To honor this Holy event Muslims around the world sacrifices a Goat, Lamb or other animal.
This Sacrifice is called “Qurbani”. This is why Eid al-Adha is also called ‘īd-ul-azhā – the Feast of goat Or “Bakra Eid”. The sacrificed animal is divided in three parts.
First part is shared among poor people, People keep Second part for themselves and the third part of sacrifice is given to the relatives.
Greetings:
May this Eid al-adha brings you unlimited joy
On this holy day, may all your wishes come true
and you be blessed by the grace of Allah.
May Allah this Eid al-Adha flood your life with happiness, Your heart with love, Your soul with spiritual thoughts and Your mind with wisdom.
Eid al-Adha is the day of sacrifice, rejoice, bliss and commitment to Allah’s orders. 
May the magic of this Eid al-Azha bring lots of happiness in your life & may you celebrate it with all your Loved ones & may it fill your HEART with Love & Peace.
May on this Eid al-Adha all your dreams come true and may you be successful in every Good Work.
The day to sacrifice is here. May you be be able to achieve all Good Goals.
May Allah shower countless blessing upon you and your family.
Let's sacrifice animalness in us and negative thoughts in us together with Qurbani.
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How blessed are the people of the Quran.



How blessed are the people of the Quran.

⛔Their tongues are always busy with the words of the Quran
⛔Their ears are always vibrated by the sound of the Quran
⛔Their eyes are always moving with the verses of the Quran
⛔Their hands are always in touch with the pages of the Quran
⛔Their minds are always mesmerized by the wonders of the Quran
⛔Their hearts are always inspired by the beauty of the Quran
⛔Their bodies are always in action with the teachings of the Quran
⛔Their time is always invested with the chapters of the Quran
⛔Their houses are always alive with the recitation of the Quran
⛔Their graves will be lit by the light of the Quran
⛔Their guide to the straight path and their ticket to Jannah is the Quran
So what else would be needed for the People of the Quran, when their dedication has brought them to the ultimate win of this life and the next.
May Allah (swt) make us all from the People of the Quran......Aameen
⛔⛔⛔⛔⛔⛔⛔⛔

Two MAJOR sins we belittle


Two MAJOR sins we belittle

_Allaah gives us some very important instructions in Surah al-Hujuraat._

He says:
*يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا*
*“O you who believe! Stay away from much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not..”*
(Surah al-Hujraat: 12)

I’m sure all of us have read this Aayah many, many times in our lives.
But have we really ‘read’ it with the ‘eyes’ of the heart?
Have we really understood the Order, the Command that the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth is giving us? Allah Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala is addressing ME and YOU.

He’s saying “O you who believe”
So pay attention!
Next He says:
“STAY AWAY from suspicions...!
And SPY NOT!”
_Our MASTER is ORDERING us not to be suspicious or spy on one another._
● Yet, somehow we feel that this Aayah does not apply to us.
● We read the Aayah and pass it by as if nothing.
● All we need to do is look at our lives and see how true this is!

We all KNOW it’s wrong.
Yet, how many wives are suspicious of their husbands for no reason and SPY on them...
And how many of us ‘conveniently’ eavesdrop on a conversation...
Or ‘casually’ look into other people’s phones, read their text messages, letters and emails...
We pry into private matters.
We keep an eye on the comings and goings of our neighbors, not out of love and care, but out of plain old nosiness.
We peep and grope after the secrets of the people...
We search for their defects and weaknesses...
ALL of this is WRONG.

It’s a MAJOR SIN and forbidden in our Deen.

Whether this is done on the basis of suspicion, or with an evil intention to  harm someone, or for satisfying one's own curiosity, it is FORBIDDEN by the Sharee’ah in EVERY CASE.
It does NOT BEFIT us, as BELIEVERS, that we should pry in the private affairs of other people, or try to peep at them from behind curtains to find out their defects and their weaknesses, EVEN IF it’s our own wife or husband or family.

Such behavior is grave immorality.

The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam said:

O people, who have professed belief verbally, but faith has not yet entered your hearts: Do not pry into the affairs of the Muslims.
For
 he, who will pry into the affairs of the Muslims, Allaah will pry into his affairs.
and he whom AIlaah follows inquisitively, is DISGRACED by Him even in his own house.
" (Abu Dawood-saheeh by al-Albaani)
How much clearer could the instructions be?!

Saturday, August 10, 2019

Vemana 1-3


Vemana padyalu - Yogi Vemana poems - Vemana satakam
About Vemana:
Vemana was a great Telugu poet and a philosopher who most probably lived between fiftheenth and seventeenth centuries.
His poems written in Telugu are known for their use of simple language and native idioms.
His poems discuss the subject of yoga, wisdom and morality.
He is more popularly known as Yogi Vemana
1 Loving What We Do
Verses of Vemana – 9
Gangi govu paalu garitadainanu chaalu
Kadivedainanemi kharamu paalu
Bhakti kalugu koodu pattedainanu chaalu
Viswadhaabhiraama, Vinura Vema
Commentary: 
This verse of Vemana finds a fine example in Mother Teresa.
She spoke the same idiom when she said: “It is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the doing.
It is not how much we give, but how much love we put in the giving!” The value of what we do is directly proportional to the amount of ‘heart’ we put into it.
Vemana presents the idea succinctly. He declares that a ladleful of milk of a holy cow is more valuable than a potful of donkey’s milk. That says it all.
2 Heart: Handle With Care
Verses of Vemana-8
Inumu virigeneni irumaru mummaru
Kaci atakavaccu kramanuganu
Manasu virigeneni mari chercharadaya
Viswadabirama Vinura Vema.
Commentary: 
Though time is the greatest healer, even it cannot completely erase the hurt that has been inflicted on the heart.
We only come to terms with it and get on with our lives.
An article made of iron, though it breaks many times can be melted or welded and restored to its original shape.
This does not, however, happen with the heart that has been struck with a poisonous arrow.
So, due care should be taken when dealing with the tender human emotions lest one should cause undue pain to those we love the most. 
It is best to follow the adage: Help ever, Hurt never.
3 Humility: Queen Of Virtues
Verses of Vemana-7
Anuvu gani chota Nadhikulamanaradu
Kochmayina nadiyu kodava gadu
Konda addamandu knochami undada
Viswadhaabhiraama, Vinura Vema
Commentary:
 One should not to vaunt one’s own exploits, or sound one’s own praises in a hostile place or at an unfavorable time.
If we do not speak about ourselves and our own abilities and achievements, it will not in any way affect our true worth.
It is far better to let others speak about our greatness.
This is accomplished by being humble.
Vemana takes the example of the mighty mountain. It looks small in the mirror.
That ‘smallness’ does not in any way have an effect on the bearing of the mountain.
Norman Vincent Peale says, “Be humble, be big in mind and soul, be kindly; you will like yourself that way and so will other people”.

Listening



Listening*
Here are some tips for active listening:
• Lean toward the person while they are talking to you.
• Look directly at them (instead of letting your eyes wander) while they are speaking.
• Listen with your eyes and ears. Look for non-verbal cues like crossed arms and legs, looking into space, clinched fists, fingers drumming on the table, wide gestures, the forced grin. Those cues usually indicate some level of stress.
• Don’t interrupt. Period. Just don’t do it. Don’t finish someone else’s sentences either.
• Ask clarifying questions. “Could you repeat that? How long have you been feeling that way? What else about that really bothers you? How often do you feel frustrated about the way I act?”
• Don’t plan your response while you are listening to them talk.
When they are finished, say something like, “Let me see if I can put that in my own words.”
• You’ll know you’ve been a successful listener when you can put their thoughts in your words to their satisfaction. After all, the bottom line on listening is not that you think you heard, but that they think you heard.
By the way, did you know that listening is good for your health.
• Listening says, “What matters to you matters to me.” Sometimes people do want advice. But often they just want to be listened to by someone who loves and cares about them.
What does active listening accomplish?
• Listening is a way of loving others.
• It says, “I want to understand and know you.”
• It comforts the brokenhearted, builds relationships, and encourages faith in God.
• Listening is also a means of learning the facts.
• Solomon, in Proverbs 18:13, warned that it is folly to answer a matter before hearing it.
• Most of all, listening to others should reflect our attentiveness toward God and His Word. God has so much He wants to teach us and tell us.
• Listening is hard work, and it takes time. It takes time to listen long enough to hear the other person’s true heart, so that if we do speak, we speak with gentle wisdom.
Oh, Lord, give us a loving heart and a listening ear. Amen
*Active listening*
The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen.
Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention ….
A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.
*Ray Pritchard’s advice on Listening*.
Psychologists talk about “active listening.” That means listening all the way through to the end of a statement. Which is not what most of us do.
The reason we don’t hear what the other person is saying is because we are too busy thinking about what we are going to say back to them.
Proverbs 18:13 says, “He who answers before listening–that is his folly and shame.”
Active listening means you focus on the other person, you listen to the whole statement, you let the meaning of it sink in, then you restate it in your own words.

BHAGAVAD-GITA


*Need of BHAGAVAD-GITA*
*The Bhagavad Gita As Never Before* for three very reasons:
*Your guide to Living Forever*
We are all living under the delusion that death is inevitable; that every person must grow old and die, and immortality is a myth. Contrary to this general belief, Krishna and Jesus both say that man can be free from death and live forever in eternal youthfulness.
*You Are God* is the only books that bring forth the true meaning of the words of these prophets and say that it is possible to become free from old age and death and attain immortality. The book unravels the secret in the words of God and place before the reader the age-old wisdom that will liberate mankind. It shows the way to God, that is, to the highest wisdom and eternal fulfillment.
*Your only source to know yourself*
You may have acquired entire knowledge of this world and even of the whole yourself? Do you have knowledge of your inner self? Do you have answer to the eternal question: Who am I?
You need to discover yourself to find eternal happiness which is the most elusive thing in the world. This is possible only through the wisdom which is elucidated in *You Are God*.
For the first time, here is a book that provides you self-knowledge and reveals that man is God or ‘you’ are God.        
*You Are God* unfolds the words of Krishna and Jesus that will allow you to attain self-realisation that you are God. It will help you to be free from stress and disease and be happy forever and attain immortality.
*Your way to fulfillment*
In this world, our desires always exceed our achievements, thereby leaving us with a sense of unfulfilment and frustration. This is because we have not grasped the true meaning of the words of God. His knowledge has not been assimilated by us; we are unable to understand the path shown by the prophets. We have not understood the highest wisdom.
*You are God* is the treasure that explain the wisdom of God through the words of Krishna, Jesus and other prophets and help you fulfill all desires in order to lead a happy and peaceful life and attain immortality. This is the path of discovery of self and the highest wisdom of God.
*Gist of every chapter in Gita*
*Chapter 1*
Wrong thinking is the only problem in life.
*Chapter 2*
Right knowledge is the ultimate solution to all our problems.
*Chapter 3*
Selflessness is the only way to progress and prosperity.
*Chapter 4*
Every prayer can be an *act of prayer*.
*Chapter 5*
Renounce the ego of individuality and rejoice in the bliss of infinity.
*Chapter 6*
Connect the higher consciousness daily.
*Chapter 7*
*Live what you learn*.
*Chapter 8*
Never give up on yourself.
*Chapter 9*
Value your blessings.
*Chapter 10*
See divinity all around.
*Chapter 11*
Have enough surrender to see the truth as it is.
*Chapter 12*
Absorb your Mind and Heart in the *supreme lord*.
*Chaptet 13*
Detach from maya and attach to Divine.
*Chapter 14*
Live a lifestyle that matches your *vision*.
*Chapter 15*
Give priority to Divinity.
*Chapter 16*
Being good is a reward to itself.
*Chapter 17*
Choosing the right over the pleasant is a *sign of power*.
*Chapter 18*
Let go, let's move with the *union of God.*
It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else's life with perfection.
[26/06 2:40 pm] Ramachandran: *Who Is God?*
He is the source of light in all luminous objects.
He is beyond the darkness of matter. 
He is knowledge. He is the object of knowledge. He is the goal of knowledge. He is situated in everyone's heart.
Lord said
"I enter into each planet, and by my energy, they stay in orbit. I become the moon, and thereby supply the juice of life to all vegetables. "
[26/06 2:41 pm] Ramachandran: *Arrogance Only Grows*
Today, I got this desire, and tomorrow I will get that one; all these riches are mine, and soon I will have even more.
Already, I have killed these enemies, and soon I will kill the rest. I am the Lord, the enjoyer, successful, happy, and strong, noble, and rich, and famous. Who on earth is my equal?
[26/06 2:42 pm] Ramachandran: *Good Work Never Goes To Waste*
No one who does good work, will ever come to a bad end, either here or in the world to come.
[26/06 2:44 pm] Ramachandran: *Give The Pure Gift of Love*
A gift is pure when it is given from the heart to the right person at the right time and at the right place, and when we expect nothing in return.
[26/06 2:44 pm] Ramachandran: *Result is not our main moto.*
When we work for getting fruits or the result from a particular action, we can’t really be our best in it.
It also gives us a lot of worries about the result.
We may also feel disheartened if our task or action does not yield good outputs.
Therefore, just doing our work without really thinking about it’s result should be our motive.
[26/06 2:45 pm] Ramachandran: *Death is the only true*
This world is not immortal.
One who takes birth dies one day and that is the ultimate truth of this world.
Nothing exists permanently. One has to leave this world, even though he wishes not to. No magic can actually help a person to stay forever.
Everyone has their set life periods. They vanish after completing them. No matter how great one is or how power one posses, all have to die one day.
[26/06 2:46 pm] Ramachandran: *Progress and development are the rules of this universe.*
Things may not be the same, the way they used to be. Things and circumstances change.
We should neither expect people, nor surroundings, not even society to be same. They all change with time. We move ahead.
Universe forgets old things and moves forward, so do we. We should not stick on one point, this will make our existence much more problematic in this world.
[26/06 2:48 pm] Ramachandran: **Desires come and go.*
Desires come and go, but you should remain a dispassionate witness, simply watching and enjoying the show.
Everyone experiences, desires but one should not be moved by them. They should not bother a person.
People sometimes undertake really evil actions because of their desires. So one should not come under the chains of desires.
[26/06 2:50 pm] Ramachandran: *Thoughts about big or small, your or mine should be kept out.*
We should not think about how big or small can we really make things.
All this is materialistic and engages people in tensions and greedy activities.
It makes one profit oriented. Thinking about yours or mine also does the same.
All the life we make and collect things for ourselves. This really does n’t make a difference when we leave this world. We all are turned into ashes after death.
[26/06 3:26 pm] Ramachandran: _Your right is to work only, to perform your prescribed duties, but you are not entitled to the fruits of your actions; let not the fruit-of-action be your motive. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, nor be attached to inaction._
*LET US TRY TO UNDERSTAND THIS GREAT VERSE IN A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE:*
Those who work expect to be rewarded for it. In simple human terms this is a universal expectation, and much work goes into computing the reward, or remuneration as it is nowadays called, both by those awarding it and by those receiving it. Most current disputes centre around this problem, and the definition of what is fair compensation for a specified input of labour.
There is a beautiful parable attributed to Jesus Christ. A farmer, or husbandman, as he is called, is recruiting labourers to work in his fields. From the morning people come to him for employment, and he fixes their wage for the day at one talent. He goes on recruiting workers, almost up to the closing time, fixing the same wage for all, which fact, however, the workers do not know. At the end of the day, when they are paid off, they are shocked and upset to find that those who were employed early in the morning are paid exactly the same as those who joined the workforce just before close of work.
Naturally they protest to the landlord that this is grossly unfair and against all concept of rewarding work. He merely replies that he had fixed the wage for each worker when he was employed, and the worker had agreed to it. That was all, as far as he was concerned. It may be concluded that if he chose to pay the same rate irrespective of how long a person worked, that was his own affair.
In this parable we see one concept of reward. The generosity of the husbandman is to be emphasized.
He rewards a person for agreeing to work, without being bothered about the quantity of work put in. In other words, the employer is rewarding the workers' willingness rather than the ability or quantum of service rendered to him. This may be considered to illustrate the problem of work and reward at one level.
Lord Krishna teaches that man has the right to work, but has no right over the fruits of such work. He teaches the correct approach as being one of renunciation of the fruits of labour and calls this karma yoga. It is of course a very difficult idea to accept. It is not merely an idea, it is an ideal.
*But if we think deeply over this, what is the conclusion that we can draw?*
Surely Shri Krishna does not deny us the right to exist, which is what his teaching would imply if man were to receive no reward for his work. It is implicit in one's existence that the means for such existence will be provided but one has to leave this to the Provider, and not waste time on calculating the reward that one should receive. The Provider knows what to give, and if man applies himself to the calculation of what he should get he is, by implication, questioning the knowledge, and more so the generosity, of the giver.
So the proper attitude for human beings is to work without thinking of the reward they will or should receive. This puts the question of work and reward at a higher level of human endeavour, by making man work in the confidence that his needs will be met fully and completely. *The mercenary attitude is done away with, and if this teaching is universally adopted, it will at one stroke do away with all meanness and corruption attendant on this problem.*
[26/06 3:56 pm] Ramachandran: *what is it that work really gives us?*
Is it merely a reward to be received slavishly from another person? Or is it something higher than this? To my mind, if Shri Krishna's teaching is correctly interpreted, what it really means is that *one thinks in terms of reward only so long as one thinks that he is working for another person,* and therefore the other should pay or reward the work done. Karma yoga teaching, properly understood, should mean that *one should not think he is working for another but for one's own self!*
If this idea comes, then who is to reward the worker? From where is the reward, if any, to come? *Surely the Self is the one to reward itself!*
When we study the results of work, divorced from any concept of reward, an *illuminating knowledge* dawns upon us. We find that what work really confers on us is the ability and power to undertake bigger, higher work. Whether it be in the physical or mental/intellectual fields of human aspiration and endeavour, this fact is absolutely true.
Every piece of work, undertaken and successfully completed, endows us with the ability and power to go up to the next higher level of work. Is this not a reward? Why then are we universally blind to this? It is because we have conditioned ourselves to thinking that reward must come from outside ourselves.
[26/06 3:59 pm] Ramachandran: *What happens to a physical worker who neglects his work?*
He loses the capacity to do his work efficiently and correctly. His muscles become flaccid, and continued idleness makes them ultimately atrophy. So a stage comes when the work has to be withheld from him.
This is the ultimate punishment, that work has to be denied to him.
*Who has punished him? The logical answer can only be that by non-performance of the duty entrusted to him, he has punished himself.* The same conclusion attends non-performance of duty at other levels too. *In all cases the worker loses his ability and power to work, and work is withheld.*
[26/06 4:03 pm] Ramachandran: *A great truth of the spiritual dimension is that power is given simultaneously when work is given.*
This analysis reveals that work alone can be the reward of work well done. By doing our work well, all that we can aspire to is for more, higher work and nothing more. But 'nothing more' is misleading, for, as work alone makes growth possible and therefore when work is given to us, it is not merely work that is given to us, but the possibility of infinite growth that is opened up to us.
The Bhagavad Gita once again gives us a clue to this important and *universal truth*, when yoga is defined as 'skill in action' or in other words, skilful performance of one's work.
*The true yoga, or sadhana as I have called it earlier, is therefore nothing but the right performance of work bestowed upon us. This is true yoga, or yogic sadhana at the highest level.*
This implies that there can be no yoga where such 'skill in action' is not developed. *Master once told me that all who participate in His work are really performing the work of Nature, that is, they are participating in Divine work.*
Here it is important to bear in mind that physical rewards, in material form, are things of which we can be deprived by men or circumstances. Power and abilities developed by us by right performance of our work are 'within' us, are non-material, and therefore remain ours forever.
We can never be deprived of them as long as we continue with the right performance of our duties. Such are the indestructible, undiminishable fruits of work properly done.
[26/06 4:07 pm] Ramachandran: Lesson 8
*When meditation is mastered, the mind is unwavering like the flame of a lamp in a windless place.*
We consider meditation boring. Who can sit still with their eyes closed and without vile thoughts?
But we truly need to take out a few minutes from our busy schedules and sit in dhyana to attain inner peace. Whether it's a quiet corner of our cosy home, or just a secluded spit in office, closing your eyes and sitting in peace will give you immense peace of mind.
[26/06 4:09 pm] Ramachandran: Lesson 9
*There is neither this world, nor the world beyond.  nor happiness for the one who doubts*.
Doubts create misunderstandings. They confuse you and fog your mind with unclear thoughts. They also bring indecisiveness and make you a coward.
For instance, if you’re in a relationship and if you have doubts about your partner’s loyalty and love then you will never be able to take your relationship further.
Love has no doubts. If it does, then it’s not love.
[26/06 4:11 pm] Ramachandran: Lesson 10
*We’re kept from our goal not by obstacles, but by a clear path to a lesser goal.*
'Dream big' is the message here. If you’re dreaming about buying a house, you can’t keep it on hold by dreaming about a motorcycle. Although small goals are important, forgetting your ultimate goal will only stunt your growth. Don’t settle for less, strive hard to achieve the bigger goals.
[26/06 4:12 pm] Ramachandran: Lesson 12
*A person can rise through the efforts of his own mind; or draw himself down, in the same manner. Because each person is his own friend or enemy.*
You’re your own best friend. If you have a problem, only you will have a solution to it, and not your friend. To find answers to your questions, you will have to look within. Seeking suggestions from ten different people who you call ‘friends’ is not going to help because they have ten solutions to one problem, whereas your solution is the ultimate answer. Believe in yourself.
*Conversation with God*
1. *Arjun* :- I can’t find free time. Life has become hectic.
**Krishna**:- Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you free.
2. *Arjun*:- Why has life become complicated now?
**Krishna **:- Stop analyzing life... It makes it complicated. Just live it.
3. *Arjun*:- Why are we then constantly unhappy?
**Krishna **:- Worrying has become your habit. That’s why you are not happy.
4. *Arjun*:- Why do good people always suffer?
**Krishna **:- Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don’t suffer.
With that experience their life becomes better, not bitter.
5. *Arjun*:- You mean to say such experience is useful?
**Krishna **:- Yes. In every term, Experience is a hard teacher. It gives the test first and the lessons later.
6. *Arjun*:- Because of so many problems, we don’t know where we are heading…
*Krishna*:- If you look outside you will not know where you are heading. Look inside. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides the way.
7. *Arjun*:- Does failure hurt more than moving in the right direction?
**Krishna**:- Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you.
8. **Arjun **:- In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
*Krishna*:- Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessing, not what you are missing.
9. *Arjun*:- What surprises you about people?
*Krishna*:- When they suffer they ask, "why me?" When they prosper, they never ask "Why me?"
10. *Arjun*:- How can I get the best out of life?
*Krishna*:- Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
11. *Arjun*:- One last question. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
**Krishna**:- There are no unanswered prayers. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Life is a mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live.
Stay Blessed & Happy..!!

A Good Woman



*A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:*
1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.
5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.
8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.
9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty (even the anointed
ones)
11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.
14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.
21). Don't be too judgmental with your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.
23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.
24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.
28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.
29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.
30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from Almighty God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.
31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from Almighty God love your children and teach them well.
32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.
33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only Almighty God can solve our problems - not parent, not pastors nor imam not anybody but, only you and Almighty God.
Send it to every woman you know. You never know whose marriage you are about to save.
And to every man so that the women in their live can be appreciated.     
*(PLS MAKE SURE YOUR WIFE READS THIS, IF YOU DESIRE A PEACEFUL AND HAPPY HOME)*

Ramadan - Rules


Ramadan
Reasons for Breaking the Fasting
We always get some questions related to Ramadan.
Some specific questions:
Does Bleeding Break Fast?
Does vomiting Break Fast?
Does Kissing Break Your Fast?
Here are the Answers to these Questions:
Fasting During Ramadan you might have to be sure that you are following the rules and regulation that are mentioned in The Quran and Hadith.
Every Muslim has to have the pure intention to fast every night through Ramadan.
Intention and refraining from turns that invalidate the fast means that the fast is effective.
Fast can be broken if someone eats, drinks smokes or engages in sexual intercourse, intentionally vomits, menstruates or bleeds through childbirth.
There some other requirements to being able to fasting. Such as hit puberty and being sane.
You should / can only be able to take medications in case of a life-threatening condition.
There are some regular activities those can be accepted while fasting*
Such as, Muslim can shower, draw blood, breathe in different smells, rinse to mouth and nose. They can also have injections or suppositories, can apply deodorant, kiss or hug their wife, and apply eye drops.
Due to illness unintentionally vomiting can happen to someone that will not break the fast.
If someone has the intention to fast and they take bath and brushing teeth then also fast will remain active.
If someone feels the intention to break the fast but he does not follow through this intention then also fast will active.
Muslims must have to close their fasting at the proper time by either with odd numbers of dates or drinking water. But you have to consider one thing that a single sip of water breaks the fast.
What to Do In Ramadan
Ramadan is one of the most merciful months in the Islamic Calendar.
In this month Allah sent  Quran as a Guidance of humanity.
Allah has given special Prayers for this month.
Allah has announced forgiveness for them who will ask for it in this holy month.
Today we learn about to mandatory activity list.
Here’s a complete list of things to do in Ramadan.
1. Reading Quran.
2. Practicing Dua.
3. Building new Relationships and rebuilding the broken relationships.
4. Making oneself a True Muslim.
5. Giving Charity-zakat and sadaka.
6. Stop Wasting Time.
Special Conditions When You Excusable From Fasting
Islamic scholars have found some scopes for those people who are not able to fast due to their sickness or different health conditions.
Usually, the rules discussed above is for general Muslims who have no health problems or such kind of difficulties.
Fasting During Ramadan isn’t much of a regular caring term to mention but in the holy month of Ramadan you have to be sure about that you are following the do and not to do activities. Because these regulations are meant to keep the fasting and your sacrifice in a right way.
Here are some usual procedures and specific cases for circumstances such as critical sickness and chronic health conditions for an occurrence.
A pregnant woman who believes that fasting will harm her baby then he will be excused from fasting.
There are some other people for whom fasting is excused such as, travelers, the elderly people and the insane.
But, those who are capable are expected to make up for missing the fasting when it is permissible.
The poor can be excused but must ask forgiveness to Allah.
Ramadan For Kids
Muslim kids are not ordered to fast in Ramadan until they reach the age of maturity.
At that age, they are responsible for their decisions and are considered adults in terms of meeting religious commitments.
Schools and other programs that include children may find that some children choose to fast, while others do not.
It is requested to accept the child’s lead and not creating any force an action one way or the other.
All Muslims around the world fast at the same time each year.
Scope for kids
Fasting schedules and meal times are adjusted during the month, and more time is spent in community gatherings, family visits, and in prayer at the mosque.
Even younger children will be part of compliance since Ramadan is an event that comprises all members of the community.
In many families, younger children do enjoy contributing in the fast and are invigorated to practice their fasting in a way that is opposite for their age.
It is common for a younger child to fast for part of a day, as an example, or for one day on the weekend.
This way, they enjoy the “grown” feeling that they are sharing in the special actions of the family and community, and also become habituated to the full fasting they will one-day training.
It is infrequent for young children to fast for more than a couple of hours, but then again, some older children may impulse themselves to try longer periods. This is largely left up to the child, though; children are not pressured in any way.
Many Muslim children (under the age of 10 or so) will not fast all through the school day, but some children may prompt a fondness to try. In non-Muslim countries, there is no concession of sumptuous rooms for students who are fasting.
On the divergent, it is understood that one may face attractions during fasting, and one is responsible only for his or her activities. Then fasting students will escalate the offer of a quiet space during lunchtime (at the library or in a classroom, for an example) to be away from those who are eating or special attention during P.E. lessons.
Activities for kids
It is also communal for children to contribute to Ramadan in other ways, aside from the daily fast.
They may collect coins or money to contribute to the needy, help cook meals for contravention the day’s fast, or read the holy Quran with the family in the evening.
Families are often up late in the evenings for meals and special prayers, so kids may go to bed at a later bedtime than usual during the month.
Health Benefits of Ramadan
There are several health benefits are there if you fast one month of Ramadan.
Although three times when Muslims eat at the start of Iftar every day during Ramadan for spiritual reasons, they also come with the added bonus of multiple health benefits of Ramadan.
This is now Proved by Science that there are so many health benefits of Ramadan which allows us to be healthy and happy.
1. Fasting Boost Your Brain’s Strength.
2. Fasting Ditch Bad Habits Which You Were Trying To Eliminate For Long Time.
3. Fasting Lower Cholesterol and Keep Lower Your Blood Pressure.
4. Fasting Last Appetite Reduction Which Keeps Your Body Strong.
5. Fasting Detoxify Your Body From Different Germs and Viruses.
6. Fasting Absorb More Nutrients To Keep You Fit and Healthy
Who is Excused From Fasting During Ramadan?
But if any of you ill, or on a journey, the prescribed number “of Ramadan days”should be made up from days later. For those who cannot do this except with hardship is a ransom: the feeding of one that is indigent. Allah intends every ease for you. He does not want to put you to difficulties.
[Quran 2:184-185]
*Sickness*
If you are very sick then you are excused from fasting.
*Travelling*
If you are travelling then you are excused from fasting.
*Pregnancy or Breastfeeding*
If you are pregnant or you’re breastfeeding you child then you are excused from fasting.
*Senility and Old age*
This means the person is old to his last days and days are passing he’s getting weaker. He’s loosing his health condition getting worse then he is excused from fasting.
*Intense Hunger and Thirst*
If someone is very hungry like in a intense situation and also thirsty of water. In his mind he is thinking that he will loose his consciousness then he can eat as much as he thirsty or hungry. However after that he should refrain rest of the day from food.
*Compulsion*
If anyone is in a situation where he has no right of will and he is living according to other’s will forcefully then he is excused from fasting.
But in these situation you must fulfill your fasts later time in your convenience.
Ramadan Health Benefits: 
Ramadan has certain health benefits. Scientists now accepted that one month of Fasting is really helpful for your mental and physical health. We have made some lists of the Benefits of Ramadan.
1. It Gives Vital Organs a Complete Rest.
2. It Promotes Elimination of Metabolic Wastes.
3. It Allows the Body to Adjust and Normalize Its Biochemistry. Also Its Secretions.
4. It Lets The Body Break Down and Absorb Swellings, Deposits, Diseased Tissues, and Abnormal Growths.
5. It Restores a Youthful Condition To The Cells and Tissues.
6. It Increases The Powers of Digestion and Assimilation: Absorption and Utilization of Food Into the System.
Tips For Healthy Eating During Ramadan
Here are some Beneficial Tips and Suggestions for Diet In Ramadan.
Because It is very important to maintain healthy eating in Ramadan while fasting.
1. Eat Slow, Especially at Iftar to Avoid Indigestion.
2. Eat Fiber-Rich Foods Like Fruits and Vegetables.
3. Avoid Eating Foods That are High in Sugar, or Deep Fried.
4. Drink Plenty of Water with Meals, and Before Sleeping.
5. Avoid Consuming Coffee or Tea Before Fasting.

Marriage in Islam


*Marriage in Islam*
Marriage is not just a legal contract; it’s a spiritual one too. This spiritual covenant is, perhaps, most beautifully described in the Qur’an when God says that a wife is like a garment for her husband, and a husband is like a garment for his wife (2:187).
If we think what a garment does – it beautifies, elevates, comforts, covers and completes a person. Likewise, you are called to be this for each other through this spiritual covenant.
*Marriage has a very real and high purpose*.
The Qur’an puts it this way: “so that you may dwell intranquility”
(30:21).
It is tranquility that gives you a taste of the spiritual home that you came from and the home to which your soul yearns to return to – the abode of the hereafter that is filled with gardens for the righteous.
So help each other cultivate this garden of tranquility here on Earth in preparation for that garden of tranquility that awaits.
To grow this garden, God gives you as a wedding gift two seeds with which to plant your flowers and trees: “And God places between[yourhearts] love and compassion”
(30:21).
Love is to always want for your spouse what you want for yourself – Prophet Muhammad’s golden rule. It is to think of your spouse and to consider him or her well when you are together and when you are not. Love means commitment and loyalty. Compassion is to strive to be and remain empathetic toward each other throughout life, and to never allow apathy to settle between yourselves.
It means listening to each other and being there for each other during times of ease and difficulty. And it means being able to forgive each other for shortcomings often and readily.
Every garden needs three things to grow beautifully and healthily: fertile soil that you can plant your roots in, sunlight everyday and nourishing rain that visits often enough.
Let the fertile soil of your marriage be God consciousness. If your marriage is rooted in the powerful idea that God has brought you together and that you’re, in the end, responsible before God in how you treat each other, then your marriage will be rooted in something that can withstand even the heaviest of storms. So pray together often. Fast together when you can. And go out and give in charity and serve the needs of others always. You will find God with you.
Let the sunlight everyday be gratitude – gratitude to God, yes, but also gratitude to each other. Recognize the blessing that each of you is for the other. Let no day go by in which you do not exchange gifts of gratitude.
The simplest  gifts, like a warm smile on a rainy day, can be the most valuable of these gifts. Giving each other your time, no matter how busy life gets, is the most important of these gifts.
And, don’t let a day go by in which you do not say “Thank you” or “God bless you,” simple but important words of appreciation.
And, let the nourishing rain be patience and perseverance. This is simply because life is not always easy and being in a relationship is not always fruits and peaches. It takes struggle, sacrifice and hard work. Take each other by the hand and commit to going forward through every peak and valley with fortitude. And as God says, do this not grudgingly but with “beautiful patience”
(70:5).
In conclusion, every couple has a critical decision to make: whether this garden of tranquility will be just for yourselves and your own enjoyment, or whether this garden will be for all those around you – your families, relatives, friends, community and society. I would submit to you that a holy marriage is one that chooses the latter.
And this is why we pray, “May God unite you in all that is good,” because God has brought you together to be a force for spreading goodness in the world beginning with those who are closest to you. Therefore, let your marriage be about something much greater than your own selves.
We pray, then, that when people walk through your garden of tranquility and eat the fruits thereof, they say this is surely “from among the signs of God…for those who ponder” (30:21).
And we pray as God asks the righteous to pray, “O our Guardian-Sustainer! Grant that our spouses and our children are a coolness for our eyes, and make us foremost among those who are God-conscientious and righteous” (25:74).
May God bless you!
May God’s blessings descend upon you!
May God unite you in all that is good!
Ameen.

The spiritual culture


The spiritual culture
HEALTH CULTURE
1. Eat moderately. Take light and simple food. Offer it to God before you eat. Have a balanced diet. 
2. Avoid spicy and hot foods, like chilies, garlic, onions, tamarind, etc., as far as possible. Give up tea, coffee, smoking, betels, meat and wine entirely. 
3. Fast on   *Ekadasi*  days or once in a fortnight. Take milk, fruits or roots only. 
4. Practice Yoga Asana (Hatha Yoga exercises) or physical exercises for 15 to 30 minutes every day. Take a long walk or play some vigorous games daily. 
ENERGY CULTURE
5. Observe silence (Mouna) for 2 hours daily and 4 to 8 hours on Sundays. 
6. Observe celibacy according to your age and circumstances. Restrict the indulgence to once a month.
Decrease it gradually to once a year. Finally take a vow of abstinence for whole life. 
ETHICAL CULTURE
7. Speak the TRUTH. Speak little. Speak kindly. Speak sweetly. 
8. Do not injure anyone in thought, word or deed. Be kind to all. 
9. Be sincere, straightforward and open-hearted in your talks and dealings. 
10. Be honest. Earn by the sweat of your brow. Do not accept any money, things or favour unless earned lawfully. Develop nobility and integrity. 
11. Control fits of anger by serenity, patience, love, mercy and tolerance. Forget and forgive. Adapt yourself to men and events.
WILL CULTURE
12. Live without sugar for a week or month. Give up salt on Sundays. 
13. Give up cards, novels, cinemas and clubs. Fly from evil company. Avoid discussions with materialists. Do not mix with persons who have no faith in God or who criticize your Sadhana(spiritual practices). 
14. Curtail your wants. Reduce your possessions. Have plain living and high thinking. 
HEART CULTURE
15. Doing good to others is the highest religion. Do some selfless service for a few hours every week, without egoism or expectation of reward. Do your worldly duties in the same spirit. Work is worship. Dedicate it to God. 
16. Give 2 to 10 percent of your income in charity every month. Share what you have with others. Let the world be your family. Remove selfishness. 
17. Be humble and prostrate yourself to all beings mentally. Feel the Divine Presence everywhere. Give up vanity, pride and hypocrisy. 
18. Have unwavering faith in God, the Bhagavad-Gita and your Guru. Make a total self-surrender to God and pray: "Thy Will be done; I want nothing." Submit to the Divine Will in all events and happenings with equanimity. 
19. See God in all beings and love them as your own Self. Do not hate anyone. 
20. Remember God at all times or, at least, on rising from bed, during a pause in work and before going to bed. Keep a Mala (rosary) in your pocket. 
PSYCHIC CULTURE
21. Study one chapter or ten to twenty-five verses of the Gita or your scriptures with meaning, daily. Learn the original language of your scripture, at least sufficient to understand it in original. 
22. Memorize important and inspiring portions of your sacred scripture according to your capacity. Memorize also any inspiring quotations from other spiritual books. Keep a pocket version your scripture with you at all times. 
23. Read the Ramayana, the Bible, the Quran, the Bhagavata, the Upanishads, the Yogavasishtha or other religious books daily without fail. Study more during holidays. 
24. Attend religious meetings and seek Satsanga (company) with saints at every opportunity. If not, create opportunities. Listen to spiritual discourses from learned and holy people. If possible, organize such functions on Sundays or holidays. 
25. Visit a temple or place of worship daily. Preferably before you leave and upon your return from work, even if only for 5 or 10 minutes. 
26. Spend holidays and leave-periods, when possible, in the company of saints or practice Sadhana at holy places in seclusion. 
SPIRITUAL CULTURE
27. Go to bed early. Get up at four o'clock. Answer calls of nature, clean your mouth and take a bath. 
28. Recite some prayers and Kirtan Dhvanis (devotional songs). Practice Pranayama (breathing exercises), Japa (repetition of the Divine Name of God) and meditation in the early morning. Sit on Padma, Siddha, or Sukha Asana throughout, without movement, by gradual practice. While you meditate, forget the outside world totally. Gradually increase the period of meditation. 
29. Perform the daily prayers of your religion. Do not fail to fulfil your obligatory duties. 
30. Write your favourite Mantra or Name of God in a notebook for ten to thirty minutes, daily. 
31. Sing the Names of God (Kirtan) and pray for half to one hour at night with family and friends. 
32. Make annual resolves on the above lines. Regularity, tenacity and fixity are essential. Record your Sadhana in a spiritual diarydaily. Review it every month and correct your failures. 

Here is a list of things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age


Here
is a list of things you need to teach your Child(ren) at early age:
1: Warn your Girl Child Never to sit on anyone's laps no matter the situation including uncles.
2: Avoid Getting Dressed in front of your child once he/she is 2 years old. Learn to excuse them or yourself.
3. Never allow any adult refer to your child as 'my wife' or 'my husband'
4. Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they do, because young people now sexually abuse themselves.
5. Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.
6. Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you may need to patiently ask lots of questions from your child.
7. Carefully educate your grown ups about the right values of sex . If you don't, the society will teach them the wrong values.
8: It is always advisable you go through any new Material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.
9. Ensure you activate parental controls on your cable networks and advice your friends especially those your child(ren) visit(s) often.
10. Teach your 3 year olds how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that
includes you (remember, charity begins from home and with you).
11: Blacklist some materials/associates you think could threaten the sanity of your child (this includes music, movies and even friends and families).
12. Let your child(ren) understand the value of standing out of the
crowd.
13: Once your child complains about a particular person, don't keep quiet about it.
Take up the case and show them you can defend them.
Remember, we are either parents or parents-to-be.
and remember "THE PAIN LASTS A LIFETIME"
Have a Nice day and Great Week Ahead
And possible forward to all friends who have children.

50 Facts About Your Wife.


50 Facts About Your Wife.
1- Your wife is not perfect, forgive her.
2- Your wife is the bone of your bone, do not break her.
3- Your wife is a gift, appreciate her.
4- Your wife is a rare gem, guide her jealously.
5- Your wife is your best friend, be friendly with her.
6- Your wife is your joy, nourish her.
7- Your wife is to be cherish, be cheerful to her.
8- Your wife is your portion, cherish her.
9- Your wife is not a devil, don’t dump her.
10- Your wife is not only good for sex, carry her along in every issue.
11- Your wife is not your enemy, encourage her.
12- Your wife is not a family material, never commit her unto the hand of your family members.
13- Your wife is not your rival, don’t compete with her.
14- Your wife is a female gender, honor her.
15- Your wife is not common, don’t compare her.
16- Your wife is not a wash hand base, stop abusing her.
17- Your wife is a weaker vessel, handle her with care.
18- Your wife is a beautiful queen, celebrate her.
19- Your wife is not a fighter, don’t fight her.
20- Your wife is not a punching bag, don’t beat her.
21- Your wife is not a game, don’t play her.
22- Your wife need foreplay, don’t rape her.
23- Your wife is a hook, get hook to her.
24- Your wife is all you love, praise her.
25- Your wife is important, honor her.
26- Your wife is what you make her to be, accept her.
27- Your wife is your joy, pursue her.
28- Your wife needs your honor, never embarrass her in the public.
29- Your wife is not a knife, be nice to her.
30- Your wife is a distinct personality, never compare her to any work.
31- Your wife is loyal, don’t be suspicious of her.
32- Your wife is not a fool, listen to her advice.
33- Your wife is not malicious, do not keep malice with her.
34- Your wife is the best friend you can have, befriend her.
35- Your wife is not a napkin, do not misuse her.
36- Your wife is not your house girl, support her in the kitchen.
37- Your wife is passionate, do not by- pass her.
38- Your wife is very important to you, do not abandon her.
39- Your wife is a queen, do not quarrel with her.
40- Your wife is not the only owner of the sit, help her to baby sit.
41- Your wife is reasonable, do not under- rate her.
42- Your wife is your responsibility, provide for her.
43- Your wife is yourself, do not separate her bed.
44- Your wife is number one in your life, priorities her
45- Your wife is your treasure, jealously guide her.
46- Your wife need your help, help her.
47- Your wife need your full attention, do not give it to T.V set.
48- Your wife is valuable, add more value to her.
49- Your wife is your crown, do not abandon her.
50- You will account to Allah SWT about your wife, handle her with care. She may be or seem fragile, but is strong.
May Allah SWT bless our Wives, Mothers, Sisters & Daughters. Ameen

Hijab


*Dedicated To all my Sisters, friends, aunts and mothers in Islam*
Hijab is A to Z.
Dear Sisters, Do You Know That
Our Hijab is A- Act of worship.
Our Hijab is B- Beauty.
Our Hijab is C- Cover of our body.
Our Hijab is D- Dignity.
Our Hijab is E- Elegant wear.
Our Hijab is F- Favourite cover.
Our Hijab is G- Gift from Allah.
Our Hijab is H- Health veil.
Our Hijab is I- Identity.
Our Hijab is J- Justified covering.
Our Hijab is K- Knowledge right.
Our Hijab is L- Legal right.
Our Hijab is M- Modesty.
Our Hijab is N- Nobility.
Our Hijab is O- Obedience to Allah.
Our Hijab is P- Precious pride.
Our Hijab is Q- Quality cover.
Our Hijab is R- Right in Islam.
Our Hijab is S- Strength to us.
Our Hijab is T- Treasure to us.
Our Hijab is U- Unique to us.
Our Hijab is V- Veil to cover body.
Our Hijab is W- World best fashion
Our Hijab is X- Xtra cute
Our Hijab is Y- Youthful protection for the girl child
Our Hijab is Z- Zeal for emancipation for good behaviour.
*Hijab is our pride as Muslim woman,*
FOR Allaah SWT sake, help me spread the message globally.

Kushu in salah


*Importance of Khushu in our salah*
Salah is the key to our success in this world and the next. 
_“It is the believers who are successful: those who are humble in their prayer”_
 [Quran verse 23, 1-2].
Khushu refers to the submissiveness, gentleness, humility, yearning, and quietude (out of love as well as fear) within the heart due to the consciousness of Allah’s Greatness and Grandeur.
It is also the awareness of one’s own weaknesses, absence of haughtiness, arrogance and superiority from the heart.
We may believe that when our minds are distracted, the concentration and humility in salah decreases.
However, the truth is that it is actually the heart that causes khushu to increase or decrease. The Prophet SAW said,
_“Of surety there is a morsel of flesh in the body, if it is sound, the whole body will be sound, but if it is corrupt, the whole body will be corrupt. It is the heart.” _
[Muslim].
*Symptoms of Lack of Khushu in Salah*
® Ever felt like you or someone praying next to you were making a sujood as though it was being done on a hot plate?
®The correct recitation of Surah Al Fatiha alone outlasts a couple of rakahs offered by you or someone praying next to you?
®Keep forgetting how many rakahs were completed and which surahs were recited?
®At the end of salah, do we feel a sense of incompleteness and regret instead of joy and accomplishment?
®Does salah seem more like a chore rather than a conversation?
®If the answer to any or all of these questions is yes, then the level of khushu needs to increase.
*Solution*:
So often it hurts us that we are not able to focus in our prayers.
Remember, the more you focus on Allah outside your salah, the easier it will be to focus on Him inside your salah.
Try to fill your mind and heart with Allah as much as you can throughout your day.
Talk to Him and make dua to Him constantly. This will build your personal relationship with Him.
Then, going to salah will be like coming home to an old friend.”

 *How to improve Khushu in Salah*
In all honesty, Khushu is something that does not remain at the same level all the time. Let’s face it; none of us is immune to distractions in salah.
We’ll face interior distractions in the form of thoughts, diversions, or an absent heart. We’ll also face exterior distractions such as things that happen in or around the prayer area.
Depending on the state of our Iman, there will be times when we’ll experience ‘Khushu-High’ and at other times  'Khushu - low'.
Hence renewing our intentions and Iman is extremely important; that, in turn, will renew our khushu.
That is why our beloved Prophet SAW used to tell his companions:
_“Renew your faith.” He was asked, “O Messenger of Allah, how do we renew our faith?” He said, “By frequently repeating La Ilaha ill-Allah (There is no god, but Allah)”_
 [Reported by Ahmad, 2/359].
Some ways:
1. *Knowledge*
Increase in Islamic knowledge; learn about Allah, tawheed, His Names and Attributes, and various aspects and sciences of the sunnah. Why? Because Allah says: 
_“It is only the learned amongst His servants who truly fear Allah”_[35:28]
2. *On Time*
 Pray on time and plan your life around salah timings and not the other way around.
Prioritize pleasing Allah over pleasing people. 
3. *Seek Refuge in Allah*
Seek refuge in Allah Subhahana from Satan by saying “Aa-udhubillahi min As-Shaitanir Rajim” before starting the salah and during the salah too when needed.
Also say Bismillah (In the name of Allah) before beginning the salah.
4. *Be Mindful*
It means to simply remind yourself to come back to the present moment as soon as you realize that your thoughts have drifted away from what is happening right now.
5. *Understand*
Read translations to understand all the surahs that you recite during salah. Try to offer Tahajjud and recite the Quran during those hours of the night, as that is a good time for understanding the words of Allah.
6. *Visualize*
Always try to remind yourself that you are standing in front of Allah Subhahana  pray as though you see Him; and if you cannot do that, then be aware that He is definitely seeing you.
As you recite, visualize the Arabic words of each surah.
Do not close your eyes, but focus on the place of sujood.
7. *Never Stop*
Be wary of sticking to your salah, particularly in times of distress – it will help a lot in dealing with the situation.
8. *Good Pace*
Be attentive and relaxed by maintaining a good pace between salah actions, giving a minimum of 5 seconds or more per action.
Every time you say ‘Allahu Akbar’, say it from your heart.
Make your sujood a bit longer than usual, recite duas in it and also before the final tasleem.
9. *It Could be the Last*
Perform every salah as you would perform your last salah. We may not know when, but one day we will be praying our last one.