SEXUAL LIMIT

*SEXUAL LIMIT (modified)*

*Sexual immorality* is on the increase all over the world. Adultery is fast becoming the norm and the pious are also being infected. Married women are not left out, many are having secret lovers and emotional affairs are becoming the order of the day.

The rate at which immorality is increasing is alarming! It is spreading fast into every nook and cranny and children are also being initiated into the club. It's no news that 10, 13 years old kids now have sex with each other.

Staying sexually pure these days is becoming a Herculean task.

*One of the reasons people fall flat into illicit sex is over confidence. The belief that you can be free around the opposite sex and nothing would happen! A lot will happen!*

One of the ways you can stay sexually pure whether married or single this end time is *to set strict boundaries. If you are too careless around the opposite sex, you will fall flat on your face!* That is the truth. The earlier you believe this and work on it, the better. *You can't be careless around the opposite sex and hope to stay sexually pure, set boundaries!*

There are some people who can't be your friends, raise the standard. Anybody can call you names, that's their headache, you have your deen and honour to protect.

*As a rule, I don't make friends with liars, gossips and jealous people. They make life so complicated. If you believe in illicit sex, we can't be friends, period!*

*Monitor your chats.*
Don't allow anybody send you flirty messages, no matter how innocent it sounds, warn them and if they refuse to stop, block them!

*Don't hug or handshake with the opposite sex.*
Don't allow anybody call you pet names (except your close family members and same sex friends), it doesn't make any sense. Pet names turn the opposite sex on, if you don't know that, know it right now.

*Be sensitive to attractions.*
Don't be naive around the opposte sex, know when a man/woman is sexually attracted to you and move back from that person. If they focus much on your physique and body, they are sexually attracted to you, move back.

*Know when you are sexually attracted to someone and move back.*
It's perfectly normal to have chemistry for someone. Marrying the greatest man on earth or the most beautiful, virtous woman in the universe will not automatically stop you from being attracted to someone else. Know when the thought of another man/woman get you excited and move back.

*Don't go into any relationship with the opposite sex except when nikāh is intended and with strict adherence to the dictates of the Sharee'ah.*
Study and find out about the person, know what they stand for, see if your core values are compatible, if not, move back!

*Leadership attracts all kinds of people.*
If you are a leader or you are gifted, talented or intelligent, the opposite sex will show more interest in you, be careful whom you allow to get close to you.

*Accepts gifts with care.*
Men don't joke with their time and money. If he spends so much time and money on you especially when you do not ask, he may one day ask for sex. Stop begging men for money. Work with your two hands and raise your standard and be contented. Men will respect and honour you for it.

*Work on your marriage.*
Fix the problem as soon as possible or else you get attracted to someone who gives you what you lack in your marriage, adultery is the result.

*Be prayerful, be watchful. ..."*

*Don't stay with or counsel the opposite sex in a dark or lonely room.*

*Avoid provocative dresses and pictures.*
Let your spouse or parents advise you on what is okay for you. Stick to the rules and regulations guiding dressing in Islaam.

*Avoid and stop posting pictures on social media.*

*Don't visit the opposite sex alone without mahram.*
It doesn't make sense and it is equally prohibited.

These and more are the things you need to do to stay sexually pure in this 21st century.

People may laugh at you, it doesn't matter. They may call you a neurotic, psychotic, fanatic, over sensitive or paranoid, don't give a damn! Your deen and honour are too precious to waste on the altar of sin. Avoid friends who make fun of chastity and make friends with people who appreciate purity and modesty.

*Finally, avoid the second look, as far as possible. You may be excused for the first unintended look but the second is taken against you.*

*Set your boundaries and never allow anyone to compromise your modesty or piety.*

The world we live in

The world we live in :
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■ We live in times where a single mother can look after 10 children, but 10 children can't look after a single mother...

■ We live in times where we see many humans, but not enough Humanity...

■ We live in times where the rich has more rooms than children and the poor has more children than rooms.

■ We live in times where smart phones bring you closer to those who are far, but distance you from those who are close...

■ We live in times where we open Facebook, more than the Holy Book...

■ We live in times where the rich walk miles to digest food, while the poor walk miles to obtain food...

■ We live in times where women are paid to be naked, while others are fined to be dressed....

■ We live in times where our contact lists are huge, but our relationships are poor....

■ We live in times where our possessions are more, but our appreciation is less....

■ We live in times where we know how to earn a good living, but somehow forget how to live good...

■ We live in times where many know the price of everything, but  the value of nothing...

Everybody wants a key that can open any lock - master key; but nobody wants a lock that more than one key can open

Such useless lock.

Be Patient

*_Surah An-Nahl, Aayat No 127_*

وَاصْبِرْ وَمَا صَبْرُكَ إِلَّا بِاللَّهِ وَلَا تَحْزَنْ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلَا تَكُ فِي ضَيْقٍ مِّمَّا يَمْكُرُونَ

*_And be patient and your patience is not but by (the assistance of) Allah, and grieve not for them, and do not distress yourself at what they plan._*

• When you are hurt by people who share the same blood as you,
*just remember Yusuf (alayhissalam), who was betrayed by his own brothers.*

• If you find your parents opposing you,
*remember Ibrahim (alayhissalam), whose father led him to the fire.*

• If you're stuck with a problem where there's no way out,
*remember Yunus (alayhissalam), stuck in the belly of a whale.*

• When someone slanders you ,
*remember Aisha (radi Allahu 'anha) who was slandered throughout the city.*

• If you're ill your body cries with pain,
*remember Ayyub (alayhissalam) who was more ill than you.*

• When you are lonely,
*recall Adam (alayhissalam) who was created alone.*

• When you can't see the logic around you,
*think of Nuh (alayhissalam)who built an Ark without questioning.*

• If you are mocked by your own relatives, family, friends and the world at large,
*then remember our dear Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W)*

*Allah Subhaana wa taala put these Prophets to Trial so that generations will persevere in Patience.瀪

So just be Patient.. InShaAllah Good things await you.. All you got to do is have complete Faith in Allah Subhaana wa taala and Never ever lose Hope.

A GOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER

AGOOD WOMAN, MAKES A GOOD WIFE AND A GOOD WIFE BECOMES A GOOD MOTHER. A GOOD MOTHER GIVES BIRTH TO A GOOD CHILD. IF YOU WANT TO BE A GOOD WOMAN, WIFE AND MOTHER, EMULATE THESE STEPS BELOW:

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.

2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses to your family and friends. It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keeper.

3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.

4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.

5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.

6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.

7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.

8). Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.

9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.

10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband's right. You must give it to him how he wants it. It's very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over that duty (even the anointed
ones)

11). Never compare your husband to your one time Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.

12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.

13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.

14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.

15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.

16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.

17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.

18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?

19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.

20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always team work.

21). Don't be too judgmental with your husband. No man wants a nagging wife.

22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.

23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food.

24). Never be too demanding to your husband, enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.

25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.

26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.

27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.

28) A confrontational wife, can never keep a good husband and her home, she will be grooming irresponsible daughters without manners.

29) A woman who cannot manage her children, home and  husband is a complete failure in life no matter her achievements.

30) A wise woman honors her husband, and respect him, in turn the husband will cherish her and love her dearly - it will be natural. Husband is a beautiful gift from Almighty God, no woman can stay without a husband. No good man on earth can tolerate a confrontational and argumentative wife except they have lost their value and become less of a real man.

31). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from Almighty God love your children and teach them well.

32). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason.

33). A prayerful wife is very wise and intelligent and she  is a  better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family. Conquer all your challenges and problems with prayers, only Almighty God can solve our problems - not parent, not pastors nor imam not anybody but, only you and Almighty God.

Send it to every woman you know. You never know whose marriage you are about to save.

And to every man so that the women in their live can be appreciated.     

*(PLS MAKE SURE YOUR WIFE READS THIS, IF YOU DESIRE A PEACEFUL AND HAPPY HOME)*

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim

Imaam Ibnul Qayyim [rahimahullaah] said:

*And from the signs of well-being and success is that whenever the slave is increased in his knowledge*
•He increases in humility and mercy;

*And whenever he is increased in action*
•He increases in his fear and caution;

*And whenever his age is increased*
•He decreases in eagerness;

*And whenever he is increased in wealth*
•He increases in his generosity and spending;

*And whenever his status and honour is increased*
•He increases in coming close to the people, in fulfilling their needs and being humble in (their presence).

*And the signs of wretchedness are:*

*Whenever he is increased in knowledge*
•He increases in pride and haughtiness;

*And whenever he is increased in actions*
•He increases in his boasting, mockery of the people and having a good opinion of himself;

*And whenever he is increased in his status and honour*
•He increases in pride and haughtiness.

These affairs of [well-being and wretchedness] are a trial and a test from Allaah by way of which He puts His slaves to trial. He brings about well-being and wretchedness to a people by way of these affairs.
*And from the signs of well-being and success is that whenever the slave is increased in his knowledge*
•He increases in humility and mercy;

*And whenever he is increased in action*
•He increases in his fear and caution;

*And whenever his age is increased*
•He decreases in eagerness;

*And whenever he is increased in wealth*
•He increases in his generosity and spending;

*And whenever his status and honour is increased*
•He increases in coming close to the people, in fulfilling their needs and being humble in (their presence).

*And the signs of wretchedness are:*

*Whenever he is increased in knowledge*
•He increases in pride and haughtiness;

*And whenever he is increased in actions*
•He increases in his boasting, mockery of the people and having a good opinion of himself;

*And whenever he is increased in his status and honour*
•He increases in pride and haughtiness.

These affairs of [well-being and wretchedness] are a trial and a test from Allaah by way of which He puts His slaves to trial. He brings about well-being and wretchedness to a people by way of these affairs.

The Thirukkural - In praise of God

*The Thirukkural*

Tirukkural  was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil  poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology.

1 *In Praise of God*

Verse 1

"A" is the first and source of all the letters. Even so is God Primordial the first and source of all the world.

Verse 2

What has learning profited a man, if it has not led him To worship the Good Feet of Him who is pure knowledge itself?

Verse 3

The Supreme dwells within the lotus of the heart. Those who reach His Splendid Feet dwell endearingly within unearthly realms.

Verse 4

Draw near the Feet of Him who is free of desire and aversion. And live forever free of suffering.

Verse 5

Good and bad, delusion's dual deeds, do not disturb Those who delight in praising the immutable, worshipful One.

Verse 6

A long and joyous life rewards those is theirs who remain firmly On the faultless path of Him who controls the five senses.

Verse 7

They alone dispel the mind's distress Who take refuge at the Feet of the Incomparable One.

Verse 8

They alone can cross life's other oceans who take refuge at the Feet of the Gracious One, Himself an ocean of virtue.

Verse 9

The head which cannot bow before the Feet of the Possessor Of eight infinite powers resembles eyes which cannot see.

Verse 10

The immense boundless ocean of births can be crossed, but not Without intimate union with Infinity's Holy Feet.

*Pooma Educational Trust-The National UN Volunteers*

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The Thirukkural - The importance of rain

*The Thirukkural*

Tirukkural  was written by Tiruvalluvar (a Tamil  poet/writer) more than 5,000 yrs ago. It’s one of the ancient sciences on Human Behaviour, which has not changed in spite of modern education  & technology.

2 *The Importance of Rain*

Verse 11

It is the unfailing fall of rain that sustains the world. Therefore, look upon rain as the nectar of life.

Verse 12

Rain produces man's wholesome food; And rain itself forms part of his food besides.

Verse 13

Though oceanic waters surround it, the world will be deluged By hunger's hardships if the billowing clouds betray us.

Verse 14

When clouds withhold their watery wealth, Farmers cease to pull their ploughs.

Verse 15

It is rain that ruins, and it is rain again That raises up those it has ruined.

Verse 16

Unless raindrops fall from the sky, Not even green grass will be seen rising from the earth.

Verse 17

The nature of oceans, though vast, would diminish, If clouds ceased to take up water and give back rain's gifts.

Verse 18

Should the heavens dry up, worship here of the heavenly ones In festivals and daily rites would wither.

Verse 19

Unless the heavens grant their gifts, neither the giver's generosity Nor the ascetic's aloofness will grace this wide world.

Verse 20

No life on earth can exist without water, And the ceaseless flow of that water cannot exist without rain.

*Pooma Educational Trust-The National UN Volunteers*

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